Friday, June 26, 2026

True or Transactional Love?


In John chapter 13, at the Last Supper of Jesus and his disciples before Christ went to the cross, he washed his disciple’s feet. And in vs.14-15, Jesus said – If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you. 

Jesus wasn’t merely speaking about washing people’s physical feet. And he wasn’t saying to only wash the feet of those who are your closest companions. Jesus was giving an example of love. It wasn’t a transactional kind of love. It was love that gave without expectations of reciprocity. He served their need without asking to them to serve his need. Jesus wasn’t giving them something to them in order to get something from them.

His motivation wasn’t personal gain. His motivation was love. True love, not transactional love. And that’s where the rest of us often struggle. We serve, maybe even sacrificially, but we look for something in return. Recognition from those we help, being noticed by others who see our good deeds, praise from people who say we live right, whatever benefit we might get that leads somewhere for me. We instinctively see love as an exchange, and we use love as a trade for something else.

But that’s not what Jesus did, or said for us to do. In fact, Jesus didn’t ask for them to wash his feet. And he washed the feet of those who were about to fail him on his way to the cross. Including Peter, who denied him. And Judas, who betrayed him. Jesus knew this. The disciples had nothing that they could give Jesus in return for what he was going to do for them. And us. This is why we sing, “Nothing in my hand I bring, simply to thy cross I cling.” 

Jesus stooped down to his knees, to wash the dirty feet of those who didn’t love him as well as he loved them. He didn’t have anything to gain. But he taught us that when we remove transaction from service, it becomes love. Jesus loved them, with an act that had no self-interest.

Think about a loved one you served just because you loved them. With no expectation of them “paying you back.” Like changing the diaper of a small child. Or giving to someone in need who you’ll never see again. It has happened in your life. But if you really think about it, it’s probably a lot less frequent that you might have thought at first. 

So, is there someone you’re serving that can’t pay you back? When we care for someone without looking for an earthly return, we are laying up treasure in heaven (Matthew 6:20). We are following the new commandment of the new covenant.  

In John 13:34-35, Jesus said – A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another. This is what we know as “the law of Christ (Galatians 6:2).” It is what Jesus’s brother James called, “The royal law (James 2:8).” It is the law of love (Romans 13:8-10 / Galatians 5:13-14). 

That’s the evidence of your discipleship – a love that is true, not simply transactional. A love that serves even when it’s not seen. A love that gives even when it doesn’t get. A love that counts the cost as worth it for Christ.

The Apostle Paul said the goal of our teaching is love – The aim of our charge is love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith (1 Timothy 1:5). Has your love reached the “point of no return” with someone? Where you eventually gave up on them because you didn’t get back from them?

No one washed Jesus’ feet. He washed their feet and said they ought to do the same for each other. But then there is still a possible transactional case here because for the disciples, and maybe especially for us today, washing other’s feet could become “I’ll wash your feet if and when you’ll wash mine.” But the disciples had another example, from someone other than Jesus, only a few days before this supper, which demonstrated what Jesus said before he even said it.   

You see, there was another supper before the Last Supper. And someone DID wash Jesus’ feet. And it cost her plenty. But she did it with no other motivation but love for the Lord.

In John chapter 12, Mary of Bethany took a pound of expensive ointment…and anointed the feet of Jesus and wiped his feet with her hair. Judas protested, knowing that the money from the ointment could have gone into his pockets. His transactional heart was exposed. He didn’t have gratitude, he had greed. But Jesus said leave her alone. And speaking of the same event, Matthew 26:13, Jesus says – Truly, I say to you, wherever this gospel is proclaimed in the whole world, what she has done will also be told in memory of her. 

Mary wasn’t being transactional. She was giving worship and love, and Jesus says this will be remembered. If we know Jesus, we should follow Jesus. We are not burdened by having to fulfill all sorts of exacting rules and standards. We are called to fulfill the commandment of Christ, the law of love. If you want to wash the feet of others, if you want to show Jesus’ love so that people will glorify God, if you want to know Christ in a deeper, more fulfilling way, go and do likewise. Don’t demand that people help you in the way you want to be helped, or you’ll say they are unloving. Instead, serve people with true love, not simply transactional love. A love that serves even when it’s not seen. A love that gives even when it doesn’t get. A love that counts the cost as worth it for Christ. Amen.

 

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Friday, June 19, 2026

Help Me or Else


Help me in the way that I want to be helped. And if you don’t help me in the way that I want to be helped, I won’t be helped. And then I’ll blame YOU for not helping me.  

Loving people means serving people. But it is not loving for people to demand that you must serve them in the way that they want, otherwise they’ll say you aren’t loving them. 


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Friday, May 29, 2026

Jesus Didn’t Buy God’s Love


Christ did not come to buy the Father’s love FOR us. He came as a gift of the Father’s love TO us.


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Friday, April 03, 2026

God’s Word Tests You


In Matthew 13, vs.19-22, Jesus is talking about His word being tested in your life. We have some sort of experience with God, and now we think that everything just sort of works on automatic after that. But the truth must work its way deeper and deeper into our hearts to be able to face the realities of life with faith. And often we don’t realize what’s going on, so we fail, and we think this proves the word isn’t true. But rather, it proves the word IS true. Because it’s just like Jesus says. The devil tries to steal it. The world tries to stop it. Our hearts try to squash it. And you should expect it. But even when you’ve failed, you now have the opportunity to turn this into real repentance, growth, and stability. And you can give God praise for allowing you to see the truth of his word.


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Friday, March 27, 2026

Grace before Faith



It’s not what a person does with God’s word that saves them. It’s what God’s word does with a person that saves them.   

Yes, we are saved by grace through faith. And we are also sanctified by God’s grace through faith. But it’s God’s grace that produces that faith. 


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Friday, March 20, 2026

You Believe the Virgin Birth


Some people believe in the virgin birth of the universe, but they don’t believe in the virgin birth of Jesus. Or you could say it this way…People believe in the virgin birth of the cosmos, and not in the virgin birth of the Christ.


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Thursday, March 12, 2026

Idols in the Church


Part of proclaiming the gospel is pressing it’s demands. Yes, the offer of forgiveness is free. But the gospel demands that you let go of your idols and cling to a new identity. 1 Thessalonians 1:9 says that Christians are those who turn away from serving idols in order to serve God.

Of course, you don’t lose all your idols at once. But as you come under true gospel preaching, idols are exposed and confronted. And Christ is presented as greater than what you’ve been holding onto, and you let the idol go and cling to Christ more fully, and deeply. But too many people are still clinging to their idols. I’m not talking about some statue. I’m talking about the idols in your heart. And true gospel preaching doesn’t feed your idol; it finds it and roots it out. 

So, some people leave the church because they’re not getting what they want. But they’re not getting what they want because their idol got smashed. 



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Friday, March 06, 2026

Faith as an Idol


What do you think will give you security and joy, and that without it you won’t have security and joy, even if you have God? That’s an idol.

The irony is that idolizing something ultimately keeps you from being able to enjoy it. You fret so much you can’t rest. For instance, many wealthy people are paranoid about their money. And many healthy people have an unhealthy obsession with their health. And many Christians, who are active in the things of God, never enjoy God’s grace, because they idolize their faith, and worry about losing it. 

Gaining more of an idol actually increases your fear, because nothing other than God can sustain the weight of your soul. You can make an idol of your imagination about yourself, because you fear the truth about yourself. You fear the loss of your feeling of control. Don’t make an idol of your faith. 

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Friday, February 27, 2026

Get Your Heart Right


You don’t have to get your heart right to come to the Lord. You have to come to the Lord to get your heart right.


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Friday, February 20, 2026

Maturity in Christ



You see, it seems to me that even when people aren't afraid of dying, sometimes they're afraid of living. But when you mature in Christ, you can be in awful situations and very trying circumstances. And yet you can still have courageous confidence and find comfort in Christ preaching to you. Then you can say, I don't know why, I don't know how, but I know God.

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Thursday, February 12, 2026

Eternal Choir Privilege


Those who have been redeemed by Christ are part of the eternal choir. And there can be no greater worship privilege. There can be no greater worship privilege. Stop looking at Sinai. Go to Zion. So, worship God with all you've got. Because God is right there singing with you.


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Friday, February 06, 2026

The Cost of Truth


Some people are lying when they say they want the truth. Because you can tell someone the truth. And you can show someone that the truth you tell them is believable. But that doesn’t mean they will believe that truth. Because if they believe that truth, it means they’ll have to change something in their life. And they don’t want to pay that price. The cost of believing the truth is too high for them to believe it. So, they don’t believe it’s true. Or they don’t believe the consequences of not believing that truth is real. And they will defend their disobedience to the truth through cognitive dissonance. And try and rationalize it with any number of questions they use as a shield in their continued war against the truth. And that’s the truth. 

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Friday, January 30, 2026

Sin and Self-Hatred


Do you feel a distance between you and God? King David felt it. And he asked God to lead him back to worship. Psalm 43:3 says – Send out your light and your truth; let them lead me; let them bring me to your holy hill and to your dwelling! Amen.

1 John 1:9 says – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. God has forgiven Christians because of Jesus. But they still confess the sins they commit as a matter of cleansing.

But maybe you hate yourself because you keep doing the same sins. So, you stop coming to God with it. And what’s keeping God from you is you’re keeping yourself from God. Your desire to cleanse yourself won’t work. Because sins you refuse to bring to Jesus are sins that continue to control you. Let Jesus do his job. When Jesus told Peter seventy times seven, he wasn’t just talking about you forgiving others. But Jesus forgiving you. 


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Friday, January 23, 2026

Focus Your Hope


When you feel bad, when it looks bad, when it IS bad, what can you do? Here is what the Bible says. This is King David preaching to King David. Psalm 42:5 says – Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation. David was in a bad place. So, he focused his hope. And your hope is not in your situations. Your real, true, greatest and ultimate hope is in God, who is orchestrating your situations for your good and his glory. So, you lift up your soul, by proclaiming your hope, and praising God. Don’t let your situations preach to you about God. Preach to your situations about God. He will save you.


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Friday, January 16, 2026

The Totalitarian Trail


Recently, we’ve had clashes in the streets of Minnesota and Oregon. We attacked Venezuela and captured their dictator. We attacked terrorist sights in Syria and Somalia. We’re talking about attacking Iran and toppling the government. And taking Greenland by force. We’re threatening Cuba as well. All sorts of social, political, and economic action taking place, some apart from the normal checks and balances built into our system. Where are we headed with all this?

Theodore Roosevelt said walk softly and carry a big stick. I don’t think he meant we should be surprising and smashing. And I don’t think this is what when Ronald Reagan meant when he talked about peace through strength.

Yes, the Pax Romana of 27 B.C. to 180 A.D., with its relative peace, prosperity, new roads, and a common language, helped Christianity to spread. But I don’t think that’s what’s happening in today’s world. Some believe that we are called to implement a sort of Christian hegemony. But are we following Jesus down the narrow road? Or travelling down the totalitarian trail? 


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Friday, January 02, 2026

Can God Be Wrong?


Can God be wrong about the future? If the answer is no, then even considering our free will, and our responsibility for what we do, people won’t do anything other than what God already knows they’re going to do. So, that means the future is already fixed. But how is the future fixed?

If God does it, then you can be confident that there is a good purpose behind all you see, even if you can’t see it now. But if God doesn’t do it, then God wouldn’t have a planned-out purpose for all the evil that happens. God just learns what happens, and then reacts, causing good to come from evil.

But that would make the universe bigger than God, because God would be dependent on other things. And that God may be the biggest thing in the universe. But that God can’t be God, because you can imagine something greater. And that God is smaller than the God of the Bible.


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